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Surprisingly, Azelma offered the best advice anyone could offer...We all have some form of faults, insecurities, doubts, concerns and some degree of emotional baggage. Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do to make those issues disappear -- that's something she'll have to come to terms with -- but until then, you can be as understanding and comforting as you can be.

Maybe take her and your parents out to somewhere that's out of both their comfort zones?

There are some pretty good ideas tossed out there in this thread. As far as your family is concerned, I think the suggestion of getting together outside of their "lair" is a good one. What is your girlfriend good at? Aestu suggested bowling, or some other fun less than high-brow activity. I like this approach, but it could be anything that she is good at that maybe your family is not. Any game or other activity where she could see them as regular people who aren't excellent at everything in life. My wife and daughters-in-law all joined a glass crafting class for fun. None of them knew anything about it, and so were on equal footing. They had a blast. Anything like this might be good.

One thing I also agreed with was for you to be patient and understanding about her anxieties, but I think you should make sure that you don't allow your anxiety about her anxieties to become an issue. She feels nervous around your family? Acknowledge it, and try the things suggested and other things you might think of in a slow-cook kind of manner, but don't talk it to death. If she cries after visiting with your family, there's no need to discuss it unless she wants to. Instead, hold her, and thank her for "doing this for me". She wants to wear a shirt in bed? Whatever. Tell her to wear a coat if it makes her more comfortable. You've let her know that you love her body. Now tell her that you'll make love to her however she's most comfortable. You mentioned that she was drunk once and got naked. Maybe the application of "some" alcohol or weed once in a while would be the gateway to naked comfort when you are together.

So, yeah. Aestu and Azelma offered some good advice. Patience is the best course, because hopefully, you guys have all the time in the world for these things to resolve themselves as your relationship matures. Just don't push it, or act like she's being silly. All relationships have issues to work through. You can't fix everything. Some things you just have to learn to live with. Sounds like you guys have the beginnings of a good thing. Good luck!

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I want to start tracking every time I surprise you guys with insight into something. I've noticed many posts with this sentiment (generally from Aestu)

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