The thread in the rage forum derailed into something interesting (thanks to Necra) and I figured it might deserve it's own thread for discussion and whatnot, maybe to correct and fix some misunderstandings that will pop up here between members, perhaps some rules/etiquette will be clarified? So I'll start and include my own stance on a few things:
I posted this as a response to thread derailing and other things such as the "status" of this community, which is, I think, an excellent one:
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Thread derailing is fine IMO, most often than not, it ends up with two topics being discussed. I'm not interested in half the stuff being discussed but evidently some are. Makes it a bit harder for a newcomer to the thread to know what is going on but he can deal with it. (the alternative is splitting everytime, or a rule where only the topic in the thread title can be discussed - if you try to moderate that, you will be safe to invoke occam's razor on the new method within a day)
edit2: also, someone who starts a thread can specify in a post if they don't want their thread derailed, before, as it happens or something. I've seen that once (where I was the guilty party) and people obeyed that wish and it went back on track. In other instances, people participate in the "derailed subject" and unless there's a complaint, everything's good.
Obviously it's when it's derailed into the same topic everytime that it becomes annoying to a few (or many) users. That being said, I don't see any "new rule" being necessary. Maybe a fucking reminder to be civil in discussions once in a while, or in an announcement?
Just take the Atheism thread as an example, now that was one where debate was good (and slightly heated), and both sides learned from each other and slightly moved their viewpoints as a result, with minimal BS or non-civilized communication. That was good times. Plus, it was a religion vs lack thereof thread, which when two sides are present, usually turns to shit in any online community. Not here. (edit4: when you gain respect for someone with the opposite viewpoint in a debate (that happened for me, towards a few members), it's usually a sign that it was good and constructive as opposed to a shitstorm)
edit: or hell, in online communities I've been part of, just a mention of someone being a homo attracted at least one homophobic remark. Not here. This is obviously a good community on the right track, heh - especially considering the variety of unique different opinions and viewpoints about various issues.
edit3: We obviously don't want a tight ass community, the openness and friendly fucking around is probably an aspect of why people keep coming here I'd think. Correct me if I'm wrong?
After that I thought about clarifying my thoughts about my opinion on opinions (inception dun dun dun) and how they're best handled by writing down a few examples (that came up recently or come up prominently) and expanding:
-Someone believes in a religion
You're not going to change his mind in forum posts, period. You can however change his mind on his perception of people of other religions (yours or others) or people who don't believe in one. And the other person can do the same with the same results - that would be referred to I think as a "common understanding".
Example: I can mention that I think belief in creationism is irrational or even stupid (different from "you're stupid because you believe in X", i.e. for all I know I could be dead wrong too regardless of the current degree of certainty from science), but I know I can't change someone's mind on it - all I can do is present reading materials and such and whether or not his opinion changes depends on the person, and is to be respected IMO. And vice-versa.
Consice: don't misinterpret insulting a religion with insulting anyone that believe in it.
-Someone's occupation
The diversity seems high on this board. Whether someone is a truck driver, an accountant, an academic or whatever - if they mention it, they're most likely proud of some accomplishments in their occupation. Downplaying a user's occupation by another user is IMO not warranted at all in any case in a civil discussion or if that latter is an objective.
-Someone holds the scientific method and any enterprise that uses it with high regard
You're not going to change his mind in any way whatsoever, whatever you try. That person has been trained in skepticism and witholding opinion until facts, evidence, observations and experimental results are known since at least the day they left high school if not long before, and that's not going to change - he'll be skeptical of your methods.

Example (from experience in any online or offline community where such things are discussed....): little facts are known about X, member asks (or expects) for Y's opinion/speculation/interpretation on X. Y refuses to participate; Y is not to be labeled "stupid" as a result - Y is compiling the data or even waiting for someone more knowledgable on the issue/discovery to interpret it in a better way than Y can with his own. (i.e. @Japan thread -- last I checked no member here is a nuclear physicist, we can discuss but we don't have an "expert" on the issue, and reading the internet never made anyone a source of knowledge and understanding in physics -- what I mean by that is that no one here has the "credentials", if you will and for a lack of better wording on my part, to take over the discussion and paint themselves as an authority of any kind on the subject -- I would also disagree with an "expert" doing the same thing, for the record)
Addition of knowledge is more than welcome, and also isn't that the point of a damn community? But it can be done without any hint of hostility/etc. Something I often do when something scientific that I don't know much about is being debated is weight in with how science works, because that's worked often in the past. It doesn't mean "trust the discovery/data/expert/whatever", it means "trust that it will be eventually sorted out and cleared up in the future, most likely through the scientific method". I'm reminded of a nice quote: "Argumentation cannot suffice for the discovery of new work, since the subtlety of Nature is greater many times than the subtlety of argument."
-Someone enjoys piece of art X/game X/musical band X/etc
You won't change his mind, enjoyment of art forms is purely subjective and objective counter-opinions are irrelevant to changing their mind. Discussion of those can be interesting, but they won't change anyone's mind. A good example is people who can't get enough of WoW vs. people who think it gets boring fast after content updates. Or WoW PVP vs WoW PVE. Or people who like Lady GaGa/Nickelback/[insert band you might not enjoy here]. Someone enjoys Hello Kitty Online? So what. The list is endless and IMO that's the lowest form of debate (when it sparks) as it never gets anywhere, because it can't. But there isn't much of that on this board.
Consice: fuck that shit.
-Food
I think it can't get any more subjective than that, eh?
Consice: no point but discussion of tastes is always interesting like the above.
-Political
What's the point of a political debate if both sides won't reach a common understanding, or move towards a common goal? I've seen petty bickering and back-and-forth linking to stupid things that each side does, and to an outside observer it looks exactly as if both sides of the fence have a minority of retards that somehow get highlighted often. The good aspect on this board is that grudges aren't held between members whenever that happens, or after, etc. (also: no "censorship", and those not interested just don't participate)
In any case, debating or correcting by using the hammer on someone's head will provide you with results contrary to what you want, every single time. Use the civil route and the topic will get somewhere - or at least it will be interesting to participate in - more participants = more interesting discussion, everyone wins, etc. Hostility and bullshit: argumentum ad nauseam over and over. There can't be a winner, because eventually reality decides who's right, and if victory is a goal then everyone ends up a loser - they lost their time.