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I recommend forming a relationship with a first or second generation Asian girl. On a personal note, I notice they often find me extremely attractive, but they are typically not very approachable, especially since one usually sees them behind the counter. Any ideas?
Another option is black girls (they have amazing texture and do not have the outrageous entitlement of white girls), but again, I'm not sure how to go looking for one. I'm thinking about this food court in a slummy area where I often see them, but again, not sure how to go about approaching them.
These are good ideas in theory, difficult to pull off in practice. White chicks like the one Necra described are a dime a dozen, so I won't even bother talking about them.
I only have limited experience with these categories, but what I've been able to observe:
1). First and second generation Asian girls are good options but extremely hard to convince that you'll be suitable in the long run. They often have plenty of excellent cultural values (that is, they will not try to screw you for everything they're worth, like generic-brand white chicks), but it is at the same time difficult to convince their parents that you will be a good fit. I've been strung along by a second-generation Chinese girl who enjoyed dating me because I was reliable, respectful, and enjoyed the same activities, but ultimately she made it clear it was going nowhere because not enough stars aligned. Perhaps if I were fluent in Mandarin... Similarly, a friend in college dated a second-generation Korean girl, and they were getting along quite well. Two years into the relationship, her family paid for him to visit South Korea and stay with them, and they immediately forbade the relationship. While I would strongly advocate pursuing someone with a strong cultural background (or alternatively, a broad and deep perspective on culture), it may be difficult to work out in reality.
2). If I were to pursue a black girl, I would go about it in the same ways as if I were (oh-so-mistakenly) trying to pursue a white girl. As you mentioned, I sincerely believe that they don't have the same entitlement issues as white girls, and that race stratification has left many of them in a no-man's land. If you wanted typical college educated/pursuing twenty year old, then hang out around college campuses; for sports-lovers, hang around bars.
FWIW: I went to senior prom with a black girl who went on to Harvard and modeled on the side. I routinely kick myself in the ass for not pursuing that further, despite how difficult any sort of long-distance relationship would have been.
Anyways, @Necra: Consider what happened a favor or stroke of good luck, IMO. You describe a lot of the same thought processes I went through with a similarly bad relationship in the past, especially things like "what could I do better," and her relationship with her family. If you aren't already really feeling lucky, you probably will soon enough. If anything, you're TOO nice.
