Aestu wrote:
So you say - but the objective, empirical reality is something else.
What she does, doesn't work, and yields worse results than tested alternatives (including the null option).
You have yet to show me a 100% conclusion that talk therapy "never works" other than your own opinion.
And you've
certainly never proven that couples therapy doesn't work. You've also never shown me that it yields worse results than tested alternatives. Give me the study and I'll find you a study that shows couple's therapy can work.
What is the alternative to couples therapy? Do you even know what couples therapy is?
I mean...if a marriage has to deal with infidelity...is there some other place they can go for help with such problems? What is the alternative other than 1) Trying to work it out themselves without any guide save idk...the internet or 2) Divorce
You don't think it could possibly be helpful to have a mediator with a significant amount of experience helping couples work through their relationship issues?Aestu wrote:
Azelma wrote:
I must ask though, what are you doing to help people?
Same thing your girlfriend claims to be doing. Talking.
Except I don't get paid, and I don't get social legitimacy either.
Yeah, it's the same thing. Name me a list of people you've helped aside from mayyyybe a few FUBU bros? And have you ever helped anyone on here with a significant problem? I don't mean help thinking critically...I mean...have you ever helped anyone who is suicidal? Have you ever helped reconcile a couple? Have you ever helped with any of that?
My girlfriend helped a couple separated and thinking about divorce realize they wanted to stay together...they moved back in and now seem to be happy. She's gotten periodic happy email updates from them thanking her. What have you done?
And are you dedicating your life to learning about how to help people? Even if all the books she reads and professors she talks to are full of shit...you don't think it's possible that sitting in a room with a couple and learning about them and talking with them about their issues and in some cases...getting them to open up about their feelings when they couldn't before helps?
Really?
Aestu wrote:
Sorry to derail. Really.
Can we get back to talking about how Dr. Aladdin is cheating on a superintelligent Tera Patrick clone?
Yes, let's do that