Monotheist wrote:
What I don't get is, if that kid was really that messed up why did they not notice it sooner? Adoption is a long process, you don't just show up, pick one and leave.
The long process with adoption is making sure the parents are stable and good candidates. In many states, once parents are given a green light they might only get to see the kid once or twice before the adoption depending on the circumstances of the child. The process is being sped up more and more since child services is getting less and less funding.
The parents have apparently exhausted other options, and the boy is too dangerous to be adopted to an unprepared couple.
I think there should be a time limit and a pretty high bar for qualification, but returning a foster child should be allowed.
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Remember when most of us were kids and our parents would do something called 'disciplining'... sometimes it would involve a stern talks, spanking, belts, grounding, taking privilege away and/or straight up ass kicking. This country is too pussified for that any more - god forbid a parent try to actually parent their children without the child protective services getting called up. There is no excuse (I don't give a shit if it's some over-diagnosed 'disorder' or twenty of them) for shit behavior other than shitty kids being stuck with shitty parents. If disciplining doesn't work then you're doing it wrong or not doing it hard enough.
The thought that a good spanking and a stern voice is going to change some of these kids is completely naive. Perhaps in your 'Leave it to Beaver" fantasy world this makes sense, but this kid has some extreme issues and just spent a year in a psychological ward after attempting to kill the adoptive parents. You would have more of a point if they adopted an infant, but this kid has gone through some really fucked up shit in 11 years, it's not the fault of the adoptive parents that he needs significant psychological help. If they weren't prepared for that, if they weren't informed of the severity of the kids problems, it's the state's fault and not theirs.