mazeltov wrote:
Your thinking is faulty. Just because someone is an educated professional does not make them a great parent. Success, wealth, education none of these make you a necessarily good or bad parent. Successful parenting will raise successful children in nearly all cases (the exception being children who are born with severe illnesses/disabilities that can not be overcome through good parenting). Unsuccessful parenting will lead to unsuccessful children in nearly all cases as well. There are always outliers but the exception doesn't suddenly become the rule.
Lazy parenting leads to kids who misbehave, take advantage of their parents etc. If your kid acts like a spoiled brat, is lazy, or is an insufferable human being chances are good that you played a major role in that.
Even if you change it from "professional" to "good parent," there are factors that go beyond the parent. A child isn't doomed to failure because they had a "bad" parent(s), it's just more likely that they'll fail, and a child is guaranteed success because they had a "good" parent, though they may be more likely to succeed. I know you're saying "all things being equal," but things generally aren't. Maybe it's excessive to say it's a 'crap shoot' like I did, but it really seems like it's more of a gamble than a certainty regardless of what you do. Maybe I'm just being pessimistic, but that's how it seems to me.
Your Pal,
Jubber
