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My cousin has a son, and an ex wife.

I don't like the ex wife. The son is having his 4 year old birthday party, and the ex wife invited me to the party. He's not going to be there. Do I have to go?

You don't have to go.


Send the son a birthday card just in case.

No. My instinct is she is trying to use you to validate her control of the boy. You don't have to play ball.
If his father gets control for the weekend you could also hang out with him them.

Azelma is correct. Send the boy a card and gift. I recommend a copy of a good children's book.

Suggestions include:
If You Give A Mouse A Cookie
Where The Wild Things Are
Ant & Bee
Young Years: Best Loved Stories and Poems for Little Children (best story: "Why The Sea Is Salty")
The Lorax

To condition the boy to enjoy reading, it is best to pair a book with some more intrinsically enjoyable item such as a learning toy or sweet. Other good gifts would include an Etch-A-Sketch, a pail of colored chalks, or one of those super-bouncy rubber balls. For food items, I would recommend Turkish Delights or, if that is too sugary, a bottle of charoset.

Just some suggestions. =P

Aestu of Bleeding Hollow...

Nihilism is a copout.

Ask your cousin. I'm not sure what your relationship with the child is like. If you love him like a nephew, and it is okay with your cousin, go t don't say a word to the ex and have a nice time with the little boy. I feel bad for the little boy

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Seems totally unpossible that people get invites because it would be the nice thing to do rather than not get one at all as a semi fuck you. NOPE.

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This is why I like Aestu. He seems to take an active interest in anything he posts in. Did anyone else put as much thought into their response?

Nope.

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I'm not trying to defend him, because (a) he doesn't need it and (b) you guys like to shit on him every chance you get. Oh, he does it too? I guess the appropriate response is to do it back.


Just like we did back in 5th grade.

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Heh, I wasn't implying that you were trying to defend him...I was just poking fun at that love fest of a post you made. We get it, you think Aestu is awesome. If joking about a bromance is a crime, consider me guilty!



So, Aestu gets a free pass to act like a 5th grader, but everyone else should be above it?

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Usd is generally not one to be wary of "niceness". And it is reasonable to be suspicious of a divorcee. To have a child with someone then decide you want to go off and do your own thing and exclude the father from the boy's life is the product of an inherently petty personality.

The boy is four years old and cannot possibly understand what is going on around him. Usd's connection with the boy is that he is his uncle once removed. That is nothing to this woman, and as Usd doesn't like her, it's probable she doesn't like him either. Uncle once removed is a fairly distant relationship that is nothing to an ex, or even to a child, except insofar as the strength of the connection to one of the parents.

As that connection is the strongest variable in play, it is sensible to infer it is the reason she is inviting him.

That was my thinking. Perhaps Usd can elaborate?

Aestu of Bleeding Hollow...

Nihilism is a copout.

^Agreed with Aestu here.

If the father, Usdk's cousin, isn't even going to be there...why invite Usdk?

We can assume from Usdk's statements about not liking her that they aren't particularly close. I'm sure he's not going over there all the time, or even close to it. The mere fact that he's asking if he can not go to this event implies that he probably doesn't see her much at all.


Plus, understand one thing about many divorced women (especially when it comes to kids), they act like vindictive bitches. It reeks of some kind of move. It's not her "just being nice"


But yes, Usdk can probably elaborate. I could be wrong.

ok basics:

She left him. She and I have never hung out without at least 4 other family members present. She's keeping the house. I didn't particularly like her or her family to begin with.

He's a good man.(not biased here, ive never seen someone work so hard to be a good husband) Honest, trustworthy, hard working.

I'd spoken to my aunt(his mother) earlier this week about our thanksgiving plans, and it looks like we'll be celebrating the kids birthday and thanksgiving together, since they're only like two days apart and the kid is only 4 anyway.

@usdk, after hearing that, I'd say no, you don't have to go. I'd send a card.

So you'd be skipping thanksgiving?

no the party is on a different day, my family is having a thanksgiving/birthday party for the kid in addition to.