Azelma wrote:
Speaking of mental illness...I'd like you to read this:
http://gawker.com/5968818/i-am-adam-lanzas-mother What do you think? What should we do for someone like her/her son?
I think she's a self-righteous cunt who should be forcibly sterilized (preferably without anesthesia) and her children taken from her by the state.
She writes this long, pompous, self-pitying blather about how she belongs to this fellowship of mothers with crazy kids. She tries to come off as authoritative, in control, knows-what-the-deal-is. She talks about how she tries and fails to control her sons but at no point does she say anything about trying to let them have any control over their own lives.
Obviously if your kid is that completely out of control, then you have no place being so sure of yourself and your parenting methods. Something she says nothing about. At no point does she express anything resembling doubts about her style, her conduct. Any good parent - right or wrong - will have those doubts. If a parent has no doubts about their parenting style then that is a shit parent.
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I told him that if he ever said those words again, I would take him straight to the mental hospital, no ifs, ands, or buts.
Pointing out this part. This is what really makes shrinkology and her usage of it out as fraudulent. She is using shrinkology not as therapy, but as a means to make a threat.
She has FOUR kids and no husband. Huh. And she has a blog entitled "The Anarchist Soccer Mom".
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2012 will likely go on record as the year America declared War on Women. With any luck, as brave and hardy explorers of my gender increasingly crowd the halls of academia and begin to claw and cage fight through the ranks of middle management into the glass-ceilinged, boys-only aerie at the top, this particularly ugly manifestation of the Mommy Wars will fade into unpleasant memories, relegated to the slag heap of history with other brilliant ideas like “separate but equal” and the caste system.
But when you’re living it, the War on Women is not a whole lot of fun. Being a single mother of four children is not fun in pro-women years. In War on Women years, it’s the Ninth Circle of Hell. And in 2012, I caught flak from every direction, land, air, and sea. Within the six months surrounding my fortieth birthday, I endured the following emotional equivalents to attempting a winter land war in Asia:
I was accused of sexual harassment and fired, just six weeks after a glowing performance review and attendant pay raise for my dream job. The guy who accused me was a) not a direct report—he worked in another department; b) actually harassing me; and c) a toad. Not the kind that turns into a prince, either. The kind that has warts and pees on your hand. My call to legislators: pass a law that protects women from being fired for sexual harassment until they get paid as much as men. Oh, and get a life, guys. The women you work with love our jobs way more than we will ever love you. There’s even research to prove it.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/08/opini ... wanted=all A few weeks later, just before I lost my health benefits, I found out that I needed a biopsy. And a few months after that, I paid out of pocket for an unpleasant outpatient procedure that costs only $541 at Planned Parenthood, but more than $4,000 at local hospitals (???). Meanwhile, our current white, male crop of legislators pitches fits about a vaccine that can PREVENT cervical cancer (and all of its attendant nastiness) because they are worried that, gasp!, teenage girls might grow up and have sex one day. It happens. In my case, it happened at least four times. Well, four that I know of. Learn more at
http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/vpd-vac/hpv/ Then there was the custody trial. I think my favorite part of the whole unpleasant experience was hearing my ex argue that he shouldn’t have to pay the amount of child support ordered by the state guidelines because, well, frankly, I admit that I just wasn’t smart enough to follow his dizzying, brilliant legal argument. Thank goodness the judge was too dumb to follow it as well. A caveat: narcissistic deadbeat fathers’ new favorite cause celebre is to plead something called “parental alienation syndrome (PAS).” Watch out, moms: it’s a doozy, and they’re getting away with it! If you want to read about how this dangerous and debunked theory is playing out in courts, consider this chilling statement from the Association of Women in Psychology: “PAS is often used to discount allegations of abuse, particularly in custody disputes, so that the accuser’s sanity and parenting ability are questioned, and the rights of the “alienated” parent become the focus of the case, rather than the needs of the child.”
http://parentingnewsnetwork.com/?p=1123 And then today, oh cruel universe, my ex decided that since he lost his two older children, he should take the younger two as payback. Because, get this: I have to work. No, I am serious. That is the material change in circumstance he cited. To which I would like to respond: “I am so sorry that you met a woman online while we were still married, divorced me, and married her six weeks later, so that now I have to work.” But I can’t. Because this statement of demonstrable fact would be considered parental alienation. Here’s to hoping I don’t make horrible case law here (not to mention lose my kids). Because this situation is just the classic definition of a Catch-22, isn’t it? I’m hiring a lawyer, the meanest one I can find.
The worst part of the whole incomprehensible WWI-style mess that is my life is that I thought, ever-so-briefly, maybe I had escaped the trenches for a moment...
You can't read that and tell me this woman isn't batshit insane.
It's completely no surprise her kids act that way because they know EXACTLY what is going on. Kids are not stupid. They may not have the maturity to understand a situation intelligently, but they are well aware of what is going on.
They know their mother is an unloving, conceited, hateful bitch who is using them as pawns in a vindictive war against their father. They can see clearly how their mother is trying to control every aspect of their lives to assuage her own identity issues. She is driving them insane by pretending to love them but in reality being driven entirely by her own narcissistic quixotism. They can see the difference and that is why they hate her.
So, Azelma, there you go. You have proven my point utterly. The superficial shrinking bullshit was that the children were crazy - used to justify the horrific evil this woman is committing, in fact the MEANS of that evil - yet the truth is completely opposed.
Are the shrinks going to say she's crazy? No? Clearly, we need better shrinks.
I guess you can never have too much of a bad thing, right?
I take back what I said about this woman being sterilized. If there's any justice in this world she will be stabbed to death by one of her own poor sons or someone else.
Shrinkology is an evil pseudoscience. You cannot read that and disagree.
I freely admit the article reminds me a great deal of my own childhood, down to some very specific details (such as being threatened in just that way, and having a lot of difficulty in late elementary/early middle school). And dealing with manipulative parents who are convinced they can do no wrong and masterly at turning their own self-centered impulses into a higher cause.
