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@Kay: This girl better be the most beautiful woman on the planet, or my world makes no sense.

Not that I would put up with any of that shit even if she was.

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Statistically extremely unlikely. Especially since you are insecure and therefore an easy mark. Not an insult, objective reality, and something you should seriously have meta-awareness about.



Wrong. She's the guy that X number of guys used to "care about".

Aestu of Bleeding Hollow...

Nihilism is a copout.

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She's gotten a lot better the past couple of years, thankfully. Pretty much since her daughter was born. But in high school and up to a couple years ago, it was like da fuq? It was so confusing. I love her to death though, we've been best friends for over 10 years now.

s^ | Kay

Good kicker... You probably know how many guys she's slept with... But did you ask how many girls?

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I don't understand men that insist there's no middle ground between "pushover" and "treat women like shit".

There is. You just have to find a woman worth reaching that middle ground. A woman who is secure enough that she respects you for challenging her in certain ways, yet who is also secure enough that she won't tolerate being mistreated.

Brawlsack

Taking an extended hiatus from gaming

Man girls can have some SHIT friends.

i solve this problem by not having a lot of friends, and fangirling on tumblr instead. they understand me there.

s^ | Kay

Aestu was right once again. gg wp no re.

Commitment / self esteem issues can suck my fat uncircumcised dick and kiss my ass in the middle after I intentionally forget to wipe.

Brawlsack

Taking an extended hiatus from gaming

^Bummer man =/



As for Aestu, I appreciate your concern...but you don't know her, nor do you know our relationship. I mean, just yesterday we were at a family gathering, and we were in the corner making plans for a road trip out west. We routinely discuss children and marriage some day...she's planning on moving in with me in less than a year.

Again, I appreciate the warnings...and believe me it's something I've been wary of....but at this point it doesn't seem like she'll just change her mind at the drop of a hat.

*knock on wood*


If she does, I'll be the first person to come on here horribly saddened and say you warned me.


Not all women are bad....yes divorce/breakup rates are high, but there's still many marriages/relationships that work.

If you can't give someone a fair chance despite the emotional risks involved, you're not ready to date. I learned that the hard way last night. She wasn't a bad girl at all. I freely admit I'm jealous of every dumb fuck in her past that hurt her and contributed to this. I'm angry at her for telling me many times over it was more or less "okay" to develop feelings, then changing her mind about what she wanted and freezing her own emotions in place. She never knew her biological father.

Not all girls are the same, obviously. There are patterns that tend to repeat themselves in certain scenarios, and that has always scared the shit out of me. It's human nature to pick the broken people, because often times we're broken ourselves. We can relate. Often times we try to help people. Girls go for the jaded assholes, guys go for the insecure and broken girls. The worst of the worst is when the two mutually pursue each other, at which point it becomes a battle of 'whoever runs first gets hurt the least.'

Last night I lost that battle. She ran.

Brawlsack

Taking an extended hiatus from gaming

The advice my father gave me was:

1.) "make sure you find someone who views relationships/marriage the way you do"

2.) "make sure you find someone who has a good relationship with their family (specifically: their father)"


Girls with huge daddy issues are generally bad news (though not always, of course). I'm so confident in my current relationship because she views family in much the same way I do. She also has a great relationship with her family and understands that importance.

This is why I chuckle when Aestu speaks with such vulgarity as if she's some tart. I've known tarts. She's not one of them.

I'm sorry I wish I could give you a hug

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Callysta of Reverence

Part 1 was correct. Part two, I wanted to give her a chance. Meh.

Brawlsack

Taking an extended hiatus from gaming

Dated a girl for 4+ years, she had major daddy issues (her dad was an old school controlling Asian dude...straight off the boat).

Problem was she constantly projected this "controlling" thing on to me. She also yearned to be free from her dad's influence...and started to relate that to me as well (since I was in the same city and we were doing long distance due to college).


Bottom line, her "daddy is too controlling" issues turned into "my bf is too controlling" -- then her friends all started telling her to dump me, because they were a bunch of skanks. And that was that.


Ever since then...the presence of any daddy issues makes me run far, and run fast.

Everyone has issues. I also felt it's incredibly unfair to hold things beyond her control against her. I got burned. I'll be more careful, but I'm not ruling anyone out in the future because of certain patterns. There are always exceptions, and I accept the risks. It still sucks.

Brawlsack

Taking an extended hiatus from gaming