Callysta wrote:
One visit to the doctor for flu-like symptoms doesn't mean the doctor is responsible for diagnosing a very early pregnancy. She likely didn't disclose all of her symptoms or told the doctor she wasn't having sex (either verbally or on the intake form). Whatever the cause, missing a pregnancy is VERY easy that early. Women menstruate once a month generally. If you are having sex and you are more than 3 days late, go take a test. A doctor has to have good information to properly diagnose a patient.
Women menstruate once a month. Fascinating. You bring profound knowledge to the discussion.
You are making many assumptions. For one, you are assuming that the physician followed the appropriate interview process and that he was lied to. Probable, but not certain; physicians are human beings, some are good at their jobs and some are not, and they are as susceptible to lapses in judgement and professional conduct as everyone else.
Kay said that the formulaic phrasing is insinuative in nature. The purpose of insinuation, obviously, is to facilitate the diagnostic process by not exceeding the patient's comfort zone. The problem is that this girl may well in fact be of significantly below average intelligence and simply didn't understand the question. The girl is a refugee from Sierra Leone. Many people from extremely disturbed backgrounds suffer a sort of permanent developmental delay and never develop normal intelligence or personal functioning (spend time dealing with Hmong immigrants and you will see what I mean).
It's been said she has an abusive foster family. This is something I see a lot. The sad truth is that many people adopt not because they want to do good but because they are emotionally damaged and cannot handle normal family life. They approach the rearing of children as one would approach the adoption of a stray from the pound because they do it for the same reasons: narcissism and a craving for novelty. And as with a puppy picked up by an irresponsible family, once it stops being novel and cute it gets neglected and kicked whenever it's in the way.
My point is that you are way out of line expecting a not-too-bright child who has never had any part of the world on her side to trust someone she does not know implicitly and behave as if she is a responsible adult.
Callysta wrote:
I don't get this culture of blaming everyone else. She got pregnant with the help of some other teenager. I'm just not getting how it is the doctor's fault. It's not like she came in 30 weeks along and he missed it :p
Blaming everyone else. The implication being, that the girl in question is not "somebody" and that this
one physician who is under examination (short of being blamed) is "everybody".
You know, if you were really the MENSA material you like to pretend to be, you wouldn't make fallacies that don't for a moment pass the analytical capacity of anyone of normal intelligence. So why do you pretend to posses exceptional IQ when it's completely obvious you don't? You aren't really fooling anyone.
You do it because the mistruth makes life easier for you. You find it easier to get up in the morning if you have a good story you can fool at least yourself with.
Just like that girl. She has the same basic thing going on you do. Quite likely she doesn't feel she can handle life, so she says what she would prefer to be true. It doesn't really fool anyone, but short of having you sit for the S/B or testing her piss, can anyone in a professional setting really say it's not so?
Perhaps you should look to yourself, your life, your problems (or relative paucity thereof), before making such unequivocal judgments as to how others deal with what is on their plate.
