Yuratuhl wrote:
I don't see commitment as negatively as Standard American Television-Produced Male Stereotype does.
It has nothing to do with stereotype. Marriage is outdated for men. Before women got the idiot idea in their head that they should be able to do X, Y, and Z ("just like men can" usually added onto that), but still enjoy the protections society afforded them precisely because they weren't allowed to do X, Y, and Z, marriage made sense. Now, if you get married, you're essentially handing over half of your property over to someone else in exchange for sex/companionship. You could get a better deal on a street corner.
Then there's kids. If you want one, I see the appeal of marriage...except that since marriage no longer offers either party the protections it once did there isn't any appeal to having children. You have a child with a woman, she decides she's no longer happy or whatever she decides her fucking problem is (and it's always the guy's fault, regardless of her neurosis), and...you're in law school, you've probably seen the stats. It's like, 8 times out of 10, she gets the kids, regardless of what sort of a goddamn flake she is. Then she'll shack up with some loser and/or move half-way across the goddamn country so you don't even get to see your fucking kids, and hey, if you don't like it, fuck you.
I've been with the same woman for going on ten years. I didn't need to get married to her to keep her around.
Just quit pushing the relationship/"where is this going" thing, and women will stick around. If they want to get married/serious at some point, they'll let you know. Sometimes they even outright say shit like, "Have you thought about marriage/moving in together?"
Your Pal,
Jubber
