Aestu wrote:
There is no "one" person. There may BE a "one" person, but that's arbitrary, and the reality is that there's many people on God's green earth that any given person can form a stable long-term relationship with.
Ok. To all of you who say there are multiple candidates for everyone. Agreed. There are MANY people that you might develop a "the one" type relationship with. "The One" is more of a reflection of when you have found one of those many people, and taken the relationship several levels deeper (what Aestu said, mostly). Hmm. I don't think this reality would make some people very happy.
Aestu wrote:
For that "one" person, begging, grovelling, all that fairy-tale white-knight BS, isn't necessary. It just doesn't work that way. For that "one" person, it just happens, you synergize, fit together. They are as drawn to you as you are to they. If you need to force the relationship that's a sign that it's just not meant to be.
I agree with the last sentence. The other part is problematical because things happen/change. Two people can have a terrific relationship that falls apart because one of them makes a mistake, or they discover a deal-breaker too late (like only one wants kids), or one of them meets someone else who is MORE "the one". You might say, "well, they weren't "the one" then." But, it sure won't feel that way to the one who is getting left behind.
Aestu wrote:
/raise
I can't say I'm surprised at all. /storytime?
