Azelma wrote:
I think the problem is there's this prevailing idea that a "nice guy" = "wuss" Women don't want a man who will just be a pathetic loser they can boss around...at least not in the beginning (obviously after a while in many relationships women will generally try to break the man's spirit and use sex to control him). But yes, in the beginning, women don't want "nice guys" in that sense...so they finish last.
It's the problem I have...I'm too timid when it counts. I'm not painfully insecure in the company of a woman...constantly doting on her etc, but I'm too timid when it comes to critical moments like parting after the date (do I go in for a strong kiss, a casual peck on the cheeck, a hug?), or knowing exactly what to say when I call for a second date.
The pressure in this society is still all on the man in courtship.
The man is still expected to pay for everything (despite the fact that female salaries continue to rise and get closer...though there is still a gap). Then women want empowerment everywhere where it is convenient...but go out to bars and see how women react to men who would refuse to buy them drinks. The man is expected to make all the moves. The trouble is...too many of us have grown tired of the chase.
It's a sham, these modern social dating constructs.
I just don't give a shit.
Usdk wrote:
Thats actually not a bad idea, the military-esque schools.
See if it can breed some aggression back into the male spirit.
Private armies running around can be a very dangerous thing.