Usdk wrote:
Azelma, I'm not saying there isn't a Miss Right out there for everyone, but I am saying that if you're spending all of your time LOOKING for miss right, you'll start to have a lot of false positives. I just chose a different path, and it might just work out anyway.
True, but it's all about the numbers..
Fact is, you won't know it's miss right until long after you've already met her....so you gotta try to meet people.
I just consider it a numbers game. You need to have basic standards and qualities you're looking for...from there, it's just about getting a hit.
It took me over 2 years of looking until I found something that works. So many dates, heartbreaks, terrible luck, etc. I tried:
eHarmony
Match.com
Bars
Co-ed Softball/Kickball Leagues
Blind Dates
Parties
I even considered speed dating at one point!
Funny how I ended up meeting my current GF....just shows how you have to keep looking...
I joined a random Co-ed Singles Softball League. There was a group of 4 girls on my team that all knew each other. I went on a few dates with one of them...but decided to just be friends with her and the others. After a bit, I started getting invited to parties and events by them (protip: befriending girls is a good way to meet other girls, also you have free trust/vouch points).......
One night, I went to a "stoplight party" with a buddy at this douchey bar (Stoplight party...everyone wears Leis of different colors green=single red=taken yellow=complicated...stupid concept, but this shows you how much I was willing to chance things). I didn't really want to go, but forced myself. It was awful...forced conversation, 80% idiotic skanks, chicks just looking for free drinks.
So I tell my buddy, "screw this...let's go to another bar." Next door, more of the same, just without the Leis. Douches and skanks galore. I was ready to call it a night...then one of my friends from the softball team texts me, "hey we're at this bar, wanna hang out." I say to my buddy "alright, let's just go to this bar and hang out with them, we can at least spend time with friends if we're not getting anywhere tonight"
Lo and behold, we get there and my GF is sitting with them at a table. We're introduced...start talking (it's fuzzy but we discussed the fact that we're both left handed). Got her number. The next week, met up with her and those same friends at another bar....ended up making out on the dance floor. Then I asked her out to dinner.
That was a year ago.
You never know when it's gonna hit. Happens when you least expect it.